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| live once. priority. 不進則退。 | | |
| Micah 6:8 A verse in bible. A verse someone shared with us using his last few controllable muscles and eyeballs.
Had a real blessing chance to visit a family this Sat. The husband ten odd years ago was diagnosed with spinal muscular atrophy, and unfortunately a serious type which has taken away his speaking, moving, eating, and even breathing abilities.
Before the visit I did picture a pretty old man lying on the death bed and we were there to give cheers and all that.
When we came into his place, it's completely different from what I have envisioned. The place is very decently maintained. And his room, instead of the death bed (i know that sounds horrible) that I did imagine, is painted in lively green, and on one wall it's not the concrete green, but painted the pattern of arising plants.
The man himself showed us life. You see a living life in him, though he just lies there, can't speak, or even breathe on his own. It's the air flowing in through the hole at his throat. But the sickness doesn't hurt his charm at all. At his sixties, he's with the very good looking haircut, and has the skin so perfect that no one in the room can compare. Though he can't eat, the nutritious milk going directly to his stomach has maintained him in a very good shape.
His loving wife standing right next to him shared with us their stories. She's all cheery and joyful even what she said got my tears running around in my eyes. She's been there with her husband, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health.
It is not an easy thing.
Just a few days ago, knew a bad news and over a conversation I put a remark saying 久病床前無孝子. Remembering the time when my dad suffered stroke, I honestly did not pay him a visit daily. There were time when I needed to attend exams, part time job and all.
All the times when I was put to choose between family time and fun, I gave up for the latter one. In my heart I feel like my family's always here, and I am just losing things out there, experiences I could have, or the so called exposures I'd obtain, if I stay home. so why don't I just make it up when I am better free.
When we asked about their children, his wife in a regretful tone said it's the history you can't rewrite, things already done can't be undone, times already missed are missed. In a movie I can't remember which, it said time's the fairest measure and goes on its own one-way path. "Make it up" is indeed a very silly thought.
Over the goodbye, the man shared with us a verse from Bible. I felt ache in my heart when I saw him using great deal of energies rolling his eyeballs and moving his cheek muscles to say yes to spell out a word when his wife threw out a,b,c,d,.... till his legs shake.
"bible micah chapter 6"
"He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?" | | |
| a lot of bad news from my different friends. feel weak. so much I hope I'd know how to put together the right words to comfort the people I care. but there's just nothing I can do. still, believe prayers will be listened.
a lot of mo liu thinking lately... I guess I just need to move on. need to.
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| Life and how to survive it by Adrian Tan "do not waste the vast majority of your life doing something you hate so that you can spend the small remainder sliver of your life in modest comfort."
"it is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions. Then one will gravitate towards the centre and settle into the average... There are a great many bad people in the world, and if you are not offending them, you must be bad yourself. Popularity is a sure sign that you are doing something wrong."
"love grows slowly, sinking roots first before branching and blossoming. It is not a silly weed, but a mighty tree that weathers every storm." | | |
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